Acceptance

Acceptance means that you perceive reality accurately and consciously acknowledge what you perceive.
This may sound simple and obvious, but in practice it’s extremely difficult. If you experience chronic difficulties in a particular area of your life, there’s a strong chance that the root of the problem is a failure to accept reality as it is.
                                                          -Steve Pavlina

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Today is a hard one!

Dearest Clarity,

Every once and a while, especially around holidays, birthdays or any big events (her 1st loose toof!) I really feel so sad about my daughter not having a father around and for me not having somebody. As much as I love it just being me and my munchkin, I crave having a man around, someone to make dinner with, laugh at my munchkins silly questions. Someone to to cuddle on the couch with after putting her to bed, someone to create another child with so my baby can have the brother or sister she wants so badly. Someone to explore with, make mistakes with and learn new things with. The hardest part about wanting this, is that I know my daughter wants it even more. I try my best to be positive and believe it will happen if it's meant to happen, but some days are harder than others, and today is a hard one. The one thing i realized though while writing this, is that for the first time I can honestly say, I hope I meet someone not because I need to but because I want to!

THE UNKNOWN

Dearest Clarity,

After everything I went through with my daughters father before he decided to disappear, I find myself still dealing with the anxiety and fear of our arguments, misunderstandings, disappointment's and disagreements. When I say fear I'm not talking about being scared of him hurting me physically, I'm just talking about the torment of going through him not showing up, or him arguing with my every move and decision. Towards the end when it got really bad and intense between us, I felt the worst feelings I have ever felt. Every once and a while that anxiety and fear comes back. Not knowing if he will ever call again or show up again. Not knowing if he will ever want to come back and be a father to his beautiful daughter. The unknowings of it all can be so overwhelming. Will we see him walking down the street? Will we never see him again? Sometimes when my phone or doorbell rings my heart jumps. Then I start to think, what if he does come back around, what will I do? How will I handle it? How will it affect my daughter? and what if she blames me. When I start feeling this way, which is often, I just try to breathe through it and tell myself everything will be ok. I talk to friends, family or write in my journal. At the end of the day though all of these fears and anxiety of the unknown is always there, I just pray that I can get to a place where I don't feel this way anymore, or at least it can't get in the way of me living a happy, peaceful life. I guess I just need to somehow accept that I can't do anything about it. I can just be the best woman and mother I can be, and be positive and hope for the best for everyone involved.

A Book For My LADIES!

Dearest Clarity,

I was given this book about a year ago, and it really made me look at myself and understand why my relationships have turned out the way they have, and why I have attracted all the wrong guys. I recently gave it to a friend to read and she read it within a few days. She was messaging me a few times a day FREAKING out because she couldn't believe how much she could relate. I'm so happy I passed it on to her, and that it has helped her like it did me. It will bring up a lot and can be a bit emotional and draining but in the end you will feel so happy you read it. It will help give you clarity and inspire you to change your love habits for the better. So if you find you always meet the wrong guys, have relationships full of drama and unhealthy emotions and feelings, this book is for you! I encourage all you ladies out there to give it a try, I guarantee you will get something out of it. All the books I've read that have changed my life I call my Bible's, and this is one of them! I'm thankful it was given to me and I hope it gives to you like it did to me. Happy Reading!